#Toddlerlife

The phase from newborn to toddler happens in the blink of an eye.

Often thought of as a tricky time for parents, this time of a child’s life is full of growth and amazing changes. So much is happening as they become toddlers and start the journey of independence.

So much experimentation occurs during this phase, which often presents with hitting, biting or acting out in general. Our children are not doing these things because they are naughty or trying to hurt us, they are trying to work out their impact on the world. It is quite an amazing discovery!

Learning skills is really important in this age group. Our children are always watching and we are their first teachers. Modelling behaviours we want our kids to learn is a fantastic way to teach without actively teaching. Using ‘Please’ and ‘thank you’, are great ways to teach politeness. Play is also an amazing tool to teach our little ones. When we engage with our kids with play and help them to take the lead, we can learn from them and understand what they are ready for. The best negotiation skills are often learnt through play.

If your child is displaying a challenging behaviour, stay calm and use a kind but firm voice to remind them no hitting, or stop them from hitting if you see it about to happen. Using a calm less reactive voice allows your child to follow your lead. Distraction or moving onto the next activity is a good option, remembering that your child may have some energy to discharge. Throwing a ball, jumping, dancing or climbing some play equipment may be needed.

Our children want and need us in close proximity to keep them safe, both physically and emotionally. Each day, life will throw your child some challenges, which sometimes they can cope with, and other days will create lots of meltdowns. Remember that the toddler brain is easily overloaded and some days will be tougher than others. This challenging behaviour provides opportunities for us to help our children, be beside them and provide comfort when needed.

We want our kids to be happy. Research tells us our kids are happiest when they have structure and routine. Literally, rules and boundary setting are craved by our children and helps them feel safe and loved. Finding the balance between too many rules and just enough is our aim.

Whilst these toddler years may be challenging, they are so very rewarding. Our love for our children is immense……… as are some of the meltdowns. Try to find your groove as a parent and never let your toddler think that they are in charge. You’ve got this!